ביצ'ז לא מכירים אותי (danbi) wrote in comfybed,
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Issues.

Okay, I know that it might be stupid to be posting this now, when people are on holiday, but I'd love to get some input on this.

Basically, I have trust issues. It takes a lot for me to trust people online as well as in real life. I feel that I hesitate to really be me around people. I mean, I'm not fake, I'm just holding back.

I've had my trust broken a few times in my life, and I'm wondering how to deal with it. I've spoken about it to others, but have not managed to find a solution that fit me. My dad tried to help by telling me that if someone breaks my trust, then it's not my fault. But how does that help anything? I mean, what should I do if I feel that the person isn't trustworthy?

My dad says to keep being the same person I am, but not to let it get to me, because then that person wins. However, I am not entirely sure I can open up to people, feel "betrayed" (for lack of a better term) and then keep myself open anyway. To me, not being affected by mistrust is like cutting yourself off from being yourself. I don't really know how to explain this better.

Anyway, if anyone sees this and feels like giving advice, or perhaps relating a similar experience you think would be helpful, please do. If not, thank you for reading and happy new year.

-curio // Ravenclaw -
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